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Before, I doubted myself in business situations.
Before, I was uncomfortable meeting new people for fear of being rejected.
Before, I didn't know how to be an equal partner in a relationship.
Before, I thought I was fat, ugly, unloveable, and didn't have much to contribute to the world.
Before, I had relationships with men who didn't value me.
Before, I battled those negative inner voices that said I was bad.
Before, even though I am an adult, I needed my parent's approval for things.
Before, I was often tense and stressed out.
Before, I would binge and starve myself and exercise compulsively.
Before, I would listen to doctors, no matter what they told me.
Before, I needed to have all the answers. I couldn't tolerate the "not-knowing." I needed to know WHY things are as they are.
Before, I used to be afraid to stay alone at night when my husband went away on business trips.
Before, when I argued with my husband, I would blame him and be defensive.
Before, I found it difficult talking with my brother, because I didn't accept him as he is.
Before, I wanted to be friends with everybody.
Before, when I was angry at a friend, or something was bothering me concerning our relationship, I would avoid confrontation.
Before, I didn't appreciate spending time alone.
Before, I didn't appreciate the sacred in doing ordinary things, such as washing the dishes or doing the laundry.
Before, whenever I cut my hair and the stylist did something that I didn't like, I would never say anything. I would doubt my own wishes.
Before, when I ate different kinds of foods than my family did, I would think that I was weird and makes excuses for my different choices.
Before, I couldn't sit still and relax. I always had to be doing something.
Before, I didn't trust my intuition about people.
Before, I couldn't easily tap into my imagination and often had writer's block.
Before, I thought people were either right or wrong; I saw life as black and white.
Before, I didn't believe in God.
Before, I didn't play scrabble because I was afraid that I would lose.
Before, I didn't attune to my inner self.
Before, I never took naps; I thought it meant that I was being lazy.
Before, I never would have deeply bonded with my unborn babies while I was pregnant, for fear of the pain I would experience if I lost them.
Before, I believed everything I read in newspapers and heard on the news.
Before, I rarely experienced gratitude.
Before, I would go to a therapist in order to feel better.
Before, I believed that taking care of myself meant that I was being selfish.
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